A Billion People Can’t Be Wrong: Just Dance!

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Changing Seasons: Da ChunWe can learn so much as we dance through the changing seasons of our lives.

Such was the case for our Chinese friend, Da Chun.

It had been five years since she returned to her homeland. As we walked along the pathway to the Temple of Heaven (Tiantan in Chinese), we noted all the elderly people engaged in taichi, dance and song.

Growing Old in China

“I feel more Chinese than I ever was before,” our friend Da Chun proclaimed. “Since I’m getting older now, China is a good place for me. China is a good place for older people. It is good for the changing seasons I’m going through. American is good for youth.”

Ironic. Through our conversations, we discovered that we’re around the same age. Yet my husband and I didn’t even consider ourselves “old” at the time. We were right in the middle of our parenting years, with kids ranging from nine through 14 years old.

Living Overseas Changes You

When Da Chun first came back to China after two years of graduate study, she discovered that she really stood out. She spoke her mind and expected others to do the same. Gradually she learned she could no longer do that, learning to temper her ideas, at least expressing them. She found the reentry shock great.

She told of a Chinese professor whose wife was pregnant with a second child. He was the one who decided that they would try for a second. He ended up being charged with a fine and publicly decried. Refusing to pay the fine, he faced dismissal from his job.

This incident produced big headlines in Beijing when it broke. She believes he was used by the government as a scapegoat to cause others to comply. And, it worked.

Now, though, she could share openly with us as we wandered around that fabulous place of history.

Da Chun’s Background

She told of her boyfriend who lost his life in Tiananmen Square. The Chinese authorities at the time muted the loss of his life. She sought justice but failed to find it. This affected her for years. Finally, she got married to a colleague at work. They had a son and lived a “normal,” conforming life in China as it raced towards economic primacy in the 1990’s and early 21st century.

Da Chun moved up the ranks in her government position. In fact, she was able to secure a scholarship to do graduate work abroad. Not long after, she landed on our doorstep.

Another one of Da Chun’s many changing seasons.

We got to know Da Chun in the context of a student. But she was really a wife, mother, worker and party member. Our times together were sweet, and we shared openly about many aspects of life over those years.

Her marriage suffered during those two years away, eventually leading to divorce. This is a fairly “normal” arrangement – and consequence – among China’s intellectuals. She retained the custody of her son.

Spiritual Search

Da Chun always had an inquisitive heart and spirit. She asked many questions of what Christians believed and watched them closely. She clarified that, while she appreciated what she learned from the many Christian friends she made in the U.S., she now feels that Buddhism suits her better since she is in China.

When we visited, she was dating a Chinese Christian man – a teacher at the same school where she had done some part-time instruction. But her then 17-year-old son was not privy to that information. She didn’t want to consider marriage until her son would sit through the gaokao, the competitive entrance examinations for university. She wanted to wait until after to explore the options available to her.

She said that if they get married, she plans to go to church with him. At the time, they had agreed to disagree in the area of religion.

Changing Seasons, Next Step

Da Chun’s research and policy roles led her to a place of prominence in the Chinese apparatus. She developed an expertise in trade policy analysis. She admitted that, while she found the Bush policy between 2000–2008 quite black-and-white, Obama’s more nuanced style proved more challenging.

“Do you know what he is doing?” she queried, almost as if we had an inside to White House policy makers. We smiled.

We philosophized for awhile, and then found minds back in the present, enjoying the laughter and music in the park, the scene of a young couple getting their wedding pictures against the backdrop of Tiantan, the Temple of Heaven. Children ran around squealing.

“You know, I am ready to lead a quiet, simple life. So many years of working so hard, often holding three jobs at one time. It is time to slow down, to enjoy my life.”

This woman had seen so much. It seemed as if she was yet again going through another one of many changing seasons in her life.

But she knows, even if she slows down, there remains so much more ahead.


American culture tends to idolize youth. What can Americans learn from Da Chun and China about the treatment of the elderly?


Image Credit: Chinese Women Dancing at Temple of Heaven, Wikipedia, Creative Commons

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Caroline DePalatis

Founder & Interculturalist at CultureWeave
Caroline DePalatis has worked in the field of international education and service for over 20 years. A graduate of Stanford University and the Middlebury Institute of International Studies, she's still doing much of what she was trained in: bringing people of the world together. A committed Christ-follower, Caroline longs to shine the Master Designer's awesome creativity expressed through the cultures, languages, peoples and places of our world. And then there's dark chocolate. Definitely a channel for intercultural communications!
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Caroline DePalatis has worked in the field of international education and service for over 20 years. A graduate of Stanford University and the Middlebury Institute of International Studies, she’s still doing much of what she was trained in: bringing people of the world together. A committed Christ-follower, Caroline longs to shine the Master Designer’s awesome creativity expressed through the cultures, languages, peoples and places of our world. And then there’s dark chocolate. Definitely a channel for intercultural communications!

  • Nicole Akers

    Dancing is beautiful. It is the slow steps and the quick steps that help create our life story. Da Chun’s story, her dance, was hard, with passion, and matched the presentation of her youthful voice. As she ages her steps slow and her movements appear more graceful. Is she at a stage of rest as she goes back to her Mother China, or is she giving up on her passion? Hmm, the story lends itself to go either way, and I hope there is a sequel. So glad to be in this place where cultures weave together to become aware of personal interactions that warm the heart.

    • Caroline DePalatis

      That’s a great question, Nicole! I think she feels as if she’s ready to live a more quiet life now, as she ages. That the hard work is for someone younger than she is. But I will need to check in with her and yes, write a sequel to this piece sometime. Thank you so much for your comments & insights! I appreciate you!